broken heart

Please pray for me. I was happy single. Just me and God. I always said I never wanted to marry. One day I realized I was putting limitations on God by having that kind of attitude. I wanted to fully trust him. I prayed for God to send me the perfect guy for me and HE DID! Just like that. But 3 months later he broke up with me saying he was not ready for a serious relationship. I was very much in love. I am sooo hurt. I'm tired of the waves of pain that come over me about this situation. I trusted God for him to send me someone who was right for me who would not hurt me and then I got hurt worse than I ever have. I don't understand.

I understand completely what you are going through. I met my soul mate about a year ago. Although it was rocky at times, I came to know what true unconditional love was for this woman. We spoke marriage, me even adopting her kids, making a difference in the world as a future together. And then she left me...

I too had never even come close to the bliss of this type of love, and now also can unfortunately say have never even come close to the depths of despair I now feel... Hopelessness, an understatement...

I don't understand either...

the one thing I do understand is your pain, and will pray for you.

Hi

I am sorry for both of your losses. The loss of having someone in your lives that makes you feel complete and happy, is just a much a loss as if that person had passed on because, in many ways, it probably feels like that. Your not able to experience that closeness as you once did.

Platitudes don't help but the saying "It is better to have loved and lossed than never to have loved at all" does come to mind.

It may not feel like it at the moment, but in when you look back on the experience of being able to express your love for another person, you may see that you are more for having had the experience than never having had that chance at all.

There are 2 things, that might help and they really amount to a change in perspective, really.

First, become aware that all feelings of love we have in this world are only an echo of the pure loving relationship we have with God. Experiencing mortal relationships that fall short, can remind us of the pure love, that never grows cold from the Prince of Peace.

Second, if we love someone, for us, the ideal is that they love us back with as much love and affection as we loved them. In a perfect world, this would be true. That sad thing is, this is far from a perfect world.

This is why one person can love someone who turns out to love someone else and so on.

But something that can change the way we view the experience is resolving, if we love them fully, to love them enough to give them the freedom to be happy, whatever it is that makes them truly happy.

That may be a life without us. That may be a life with someone else. We may feel that there is no way in the world that someone else could make them happy or that they could be happy without us in their lives, but this isn't about us loving them but us being possessive when if we really want to love them, then allowing them the freedom to be happy, will make us happy.

This is really hard, but over time it lessens the pain and it does make us re-evaluate if the love we have for that person is a selfless love or not. A selfless love, a pure love will not require an obligation if that other person just doesnt want to be part of our lives.

These are just a couple of ideas of how to look at the situation that may help to ease the pain and help get a fresh start.

The last thought and I know it is said too often but it helps to remember it: There are many, many other people out there who are looking for a person in their lives and God willing, you will find the right one for you. So don't give up. You may not experience exact same experience you did with a previous relationship, but you may experience something just as great if not greater in a completely new relationship.

I hope it was okay to share these thoughts.

God bless

Peace in His Name

I am sorry to hear about how you have been hurt by other people. It is difficult. Messiah undertands more than anyone can realise. Every time i am hurt, the only solution for me is to look to Him at The Cross. Look what He went through for us. No human being has ever gone through whta Messiah has gone through, yet when we suffer, He understands because He suffered more. Think about this: He left His Heavenly abode to save us. He came to a world that is full of people that want to build us up then break us down. This is because as a Loving Creator He gave the Gift of Free Will too. It is God's Will for us to go to Him for all things, whether we be suffering in life, or celebrating. We as His Children are in His Hands, yet we have to BE in His Hands by sacrificing 'free will' and doing God's Will. We have to forgive those that hurt us, and when someone special comes into our lives, we have to not put them before Messiah. This is our only 'foolproof' way of minimising the pain if the person turns out not to be so special after all ( because of their 'free will' choosing ).

It is difficult, but what is certain is trusting Him for all things and remembering that He has found us, loves us, keeps us. Like lost sheep we had gone astray yet He has found us, keeps us, holds us that we will love Him and obey His Commandments.

He asks that we love each other and pray for our enemies. What is an 'enemy'? It is anyone who opposes 'God's Will!' Oh my, what alot of enemies there are in the world. All the more reason to trust Messiah in all things.

He NEVER stops loving and NEVER lets us go because He Loves us, even with His own life unto Life Eternal.

Hope this helps

Peace and much Grace and Love in His Wonderful Name
James

James, I came across this site looking for peace of mind. You said that God has given us free will...all I can say is that of late my free will has done nothing but get me into trouble. I have found myself in a place where I should not be. I have prayed and ask God to forgive me. I feel like I had been given a lesson and once again I failed....I say once again because I have been here before. The truth is I have been in this place a few times....falling in love with the lesson instead of recognising what the lesson was and what it was not. I compromised myself again and I feel like I have failed God again.

Shalom 'broken hearted'

I am an internet evangelist and i am in agreement with James. Yeshua ( as we call Him in Israel ) or Jesus in English ( Isa to the Muslimim ) says this in His Word:

He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds (Psalms 147:3)

Man shows imitations or denials of The Love of God. The Man Christ Jesus, Yeshua The Messiah did not deny God and never imitated God because He Personified Him and is The Son of God. In the Festival of Booths in Israel we know this to typifify intimacy with Yeshua, Intimacy with Jesus. The Peace of mind you seek is found in Christ and only Him. Look at the Bible Jesus used ( He only had the 'Old Testament'

A person whose desire rests on you you preserve in perfect peace, because he trusts in you.
Trust in ADONAI forever, because in Yah ADONAI, is a Rock of Ages."
(Isaiah 26:3-4)

I will translate and pray this with you from my Hebrew Bible and put it into easy English:

'Lord God, You will keep in shalom shalom Perfect Peace the ones who keep focussed on You. I will trust in You Lord Yeshua, Yahuah Yeshua, Lord Jesus! I will trust in You and You will keep me forever. Even though I may fail, You never fail. You are The Rock Eternal and The Unchanging One. By Your Blood and Your Grace You keep me for Yourself. God, I will trust in You and keep focussed on You and believe You have healed me and given me the Peace of mind that comes when a sinner trusts in You. I confess I have failed. Yet I confess You have not and I confess Your Victory as mine, a new child of Yeshua, a child of God. HalleluYah! Glory to Your Name! bShem Yeshua, in Jesus' Wonderful Name, Amen

The LORD really is your peace of mind. Keep focussed on Him and trust Him and not in yourself. Get in The Booth of Intimacy with Him and make Him your Best Friend. God wants relationship with you. People blog on Facebook and Twitter yet God wants you to share with Him, warts and all ( He actually knows everything about you so you may aswell just open up before Him - Adam and Eve hid from God, He knew where they were and asked where they were because He longed to restore the relationship they had broken. And the punishment? Jesus took it all at The Cross. Today, by Grace, we can call on Yeshua. We may not be able to tomorrow, so do it now whilst it is still the now of today )

One of the biggest schemes of the Evil One is to get you focussed on yourself. Look at Adam and Eve! And even worse than that, look at Judas Iscariot. Judas lived with The Lord, betrayed Him and instead of confessing the sin, he took his own life. If you are feeling down, fear not because Yeshua is saying, 'I have overcome, so come to Me.'

Run to Him brokenheart and let Him heal you! Taste Him and see that He is good! If you have a Bible mediatate of Psalm 34:

Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the man who takes refuge in him. (Psalm 34:8)

in The Perfect Peace of Mind's Name

amen

Your Prayers would greatly be appreciated. I often wander why I am here. Why? My father had commit suicide when he was 27 years old and i was 5. My mother died of a heart attack when she was 41 and I was 24. My stepfather attempted to sexually assualt me when I was 15. i married a man that was sober and praying in 1994. But a year after we were married I soon found out he had an uncontrollable anger and lust for alcohol and drugs. Two children later and 10 years later he had told me to get a backbone and kick him out. I did, but a month after not giving him my regular paycheque he threatened to end my life and shoot me. My cousin at the time and her common law would not give him the shot gun that he had asked of them on March 9, 2005. A month later April 5, 2009 my cousin was shot to death by the very gun that my ex husband had tried to get from them.
I will spare you more details. Only to add a few more paragraphs. In 2005 February I had met a very kind man, 22 years older than I, and he did not drink, he sitll doesn't. He had promised to take me away and live with me forever. I was mixed up and in August had decided to not see him as soon as I had discovered that he had a girlfriend. In fact, I had met her when he had invited me to travel across the country to visit him in his community. After we broke up I had found out a month later that I was pregnant. So now I have three kids. My eldest son was diagnosed with having a leaky heart valves in 2006. Shortly after my youngest child was born we had ended up following my son around from hospital to hospital. He is ok now.
But, five years later I am still alone, so very much alone. Throughout the years a Peter, Carlos, and another man had promoised to come and fly out to meet me. Peter had met someone and had politely phoned me to tell me that he would not come fly out to bring me out for supper. That's fine, i am glad that he had manners and was honest. Carlos has promised to give me the world and in fact he had tried to move to this country and to buy his own house, but he could not obtain a visa to enter into the country.
The other man I had met last July, but he was too quick tempered, and very abusive. He has completely stopped contacting me.
I do not want to remain alone for the rest of my life. I am exercising, I go out for a jog every day. I abstain from all worldy ways, as best I can. I have paid my mortgage off, I am slowly rebuilding our lives. I was a former elected tribal leader and went through hell during my two consecutive terms. And news is surfacing about a potentially corrupt electoral system during our last election. Apparantly three votes were deliberatly withheld.
There are a couple of individuals that did not like the fact that I had taken an open honest approach to fairly representing all the families and saying no to a couple of individuals. God had blessed our work, we had accomplished more than what has been accomplished in a long time. Within a short time we had negotiated agreements, built up infrastructure, developed improved fair and enhanced administration policies, almost put forward a zero tolerance for violance. And now, I feel so Alone, Without purpose. I had thought that if God would not send me a good man to love than at least i would love the people and my children.
So, i am determined to become successful and travel. I just need to get through the day, and find some joy, and believe in a miracle, and believe that change is coming.

You all ARE VERY STRONG people...I pray that God blesses me with the amount of strength he has blessed you all with...
I lost my mother 3 yrs ago when I was 17 to cancerr....i'm 20 now...I grew up in an unbalanced household...my father and I bumped heads constantly...I found myself caught in between him and my mothers arguments...he verbally abused me my mother and brother and even other members of the family..I've had an extremely hard time coping with my mothers passing and i've tried to remain and gather up the strength to go on ...but to be honest i've lost myself..and everything seems cloudy and hard to bare...I just really need someone...it seems many times that its just me, by myself and alone....but lately the only one to come to my rescue and to feel my lonely void has been God...I pray for us all...and I love you ALL....please keep me in your prayers for I feel weak and discouraged but seek to have the heart of a lion and the purity of a lamb...with the relationship as a child of God.